“But let there be spaces in your togetherness…
…And stand together yet not too near together; For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”
Everyone wants an “ideal relationship”, one where there is minimal fighting, quality affection, a deep sense of trust, emotional support and fulfilling connection—and of course plenty of laughter and fun.
It can feel frustrating and disheartening when yours feels fraught with distress, communication problems, and a lack of intimacy. It might be tempting to fall into the trap of thinking that “if only my partner would be different, we wouldn't have this problem”, but the truth is that relationships are complex and ALL relationships have challenges to navigate and difficult situations to overcome.
Couples therapy is a great way to strengthen your connection, address the setbacks from a perspective that honors both sides, and start working toward a more clear vision of what you hope for the future.
It is estimated that couples wait an average of seven years from the onset of a problem before seeking professional help for the issues they're experiencing. What an unnecessary tragedy?!
People often assume that seeking help for their relationship means that a breakup is looming in the near future. On the contrary, many mostly happy couples pursue counseling to achieve a greater sense of satisfaction and to work through “normal” ups and downs associated with a long-term relationship.
Modern MFT therapists are highly trained at delivering the most up to date, effective treatments for couples. We approach our clients with genuine curiosity and sensitivity and infuse energy and creativity into each session. Treatment is tailored to meet your unique challenges in the present and designed to maintain lasting positive change.
“We were not in a good place when we first started therapy; we were really struggling with communication and it felt like our relationship might end. We are in a much better place now…we fight much less and communicate much better. It’s easier to talk about our needs and how best to meet them. Our work spanned several topics including communication issues, physical intimacy, the in-laws/ holiday arrangements, and our changing needs. Having deep discussions about how our behavior has impacted each other has been very helpful. I feel much more connected and seen. Couples therapy really helped me to express my needs and communicate more clearly.” -Kristen B.