FAQs on Therapy

What is the process of therapy like?

At Modern MFT, we aim to create an atmosphere of safety and trust in order to help you address your concerns and resolve the challenges bringing you in. 

We start by understanding your needs in our initial call. Your first few sessions will include an evaluation of your needs. By the end of the evaluation, your therapist will offer you some impressions of what treatment will include and goals to work toward.

The process of therapy might feel a little different for each person. Sometimes individuals come in and know exactly what they’d like to change and work on and sometimes they have a more general idea of the areas they’d like to address: i.e.- anxiety, family conflict, life transitions, career related stress, relationship concerns/ dating, etc.

We find both individuals and couples pursue therapy for many different reasons at various points of transition or when a particular issue becomes overwhelming to manage on their own.

Psychotherapy is not easily described in general statements. It varies depending on a number of factors which include the specific needs, issues, history and personality of the client, as well as the training and personality of the therapist.

Over the course of your treatment, you can expect that you and your therapist will periodically check in about your progress and whether your treatment is effective in achieving the goals you set for yourself.


Some of the clinical areas we have the best outcomes in are:

Couples therapy where partners are on board with making an effort to improve the quality of their relationship

Individual therapy clients who are seeking to resolve problematic patterns in their relationships, outlook, self-care/ ability to manage stress, career/ work concerns, and issues relating back to childhood or family of origin

What are the benefits of therapy?

In general, therapy can provide support, guidance, and encouragement while helping you to develop better strategies for handling the hassles of daily life.

Many individuals also find that a highly skilled and compassionate therapist can help you achieve significant emotional growth and more genuine fulfillment by helping you to identify and understand your present coping strategies and patterns in your relationships.

The benefits you obtain from therapy depend on how well you use the process and put into practice what you learn.

Some of the specific benefits from therapy might include:

  • Attaining a better understanding of yourself, your goals, and your values
  • Changing old behavior patterns and developing more effective ones
  • Finding resolutions to the issues and concerns that led you to seek therapy
  • Building momentum toward your personal goals and taking action
  • Improving your ability to cultivate more fulfilling relationships
  • Learning new ways to cope with stressful life transitions
  • Developing skills to better handle difficult relationship struggles
  • Improving your ability to manage stress, anger, grief, and other emotional pressures
  • Attaining a sense of calm and perspective when dealing with setbacks and disappointments 
  • Improving self-esteem and boosting confidence
  • Developing new insights about yourself in relationship to others
  • Improving your ability to cultivate more joy and excitement in your life
  • For couples, improving intimacy, desire, sex/affection, and communication
  • Improving your ability to manage challenges more effectively and deal with setbacks 
  • Addressing roadblocks in your intimate relationships so that you can feel more free and satisfied

How long will therapy last?

Time in therapy really depends on what you are hoping to achieve and which service is the best fit for you at this particular time.

In thinking about and discussing your goals and reasons for seeking therapy --both in the intake call and with your loved ones involved, you will develop a better understanding of what you might need to focus on at this time. Our initial call is an important first step in helping you to determine the best way to proceed. 

We want you to be successful in achieving the goals you set for yourself. Services like couples therapy and individual therapy require a more extensive time commitment and investment. 

In general, we operate with the belief that “the goal of therapy is to end therapy." Meaning, we aim to help you develop an improved sense of well-being along with the skills, knowledge, and enhanced ability to handle distressing issues, life transitions, and relationship challenges more effectively.

Who are Licensed Marriage & Family Therapists (LMFTs) and what is their training like?

LMFTs are professionals who hold a license to practice psychotherapy with individuals, couples, and families. Trained in psychotherapy and family systems, marriage and family therapists focus on understanding their clients’ symptoms and interactional patterns within their existing environment.

Improving the quality of your life with the help of a LMFT:

In order to be licensed, LMFTs have a minimum of a master’s degree and 1500 supervised (face-to-face) clinical hours. Lastly, they must also pass a national exam. 

Training programs in marriage and family therapy emphasize understanding and resolving conflict within the context in which it occurs and with consideration for the many systems at play including—— internal, cultural, environmental, familial, and interpersonal.

LMFTs assess, treat and implement change in the overall, long-term well-being of individuals, couples, families and those in other relationships. The traditional emphasis on the individual is expanded to include consideration of the nature and roles of individuals in relation to others, particularly in the family system.

My partner and I are interested in couples therapy, but I may want to pursue individual therapy as well. Is that possible?

Of course. We regularly treat individuals and couples in our practice. If you are uncertain, it might be helpful to read through the various issues we treat to better understand what might be the most appropriate service for you at this time. We are also happy to provide some guidance in your initial phone call so we can help point you in the right direction.

If you are considering couples therapy, it is a good idea to discuss it with your partner directly and share the reasons you think it might be helpful at this time. While you can't force someone to come to therapy, you can express how you feel and share your intentions about why you think the services might be helpful and timely for you both. 

Do you accept insurance?

We are a fee for service practice and do not accept insurance on an in-network basis--meaning, we are not contracted with insurance companies directly to offer our services. Fees vary depending on the type of service and the therapist providing the service. 

For weekly therapy services, we will provide you with a monthly statement to submit to your insurance company for reimbursement. Accelerated programs are not reimbursed by insurance companies. 

Many clients receiving weekly therapy services are receiving some reimbursement from their insurance company. We aim to make our services as accessible as possible and do have a limited number of sliding scale spots available. Just ask when you fill out our contact form.

In general, it's a good idea to check your out-of-network benefits so that you have a solid understanding of the reimbursement process. We are happy to help you navigate the process along the way!

What should I know about this type of investment?

We view therapy as a powerful, life enhancing experience and an important investment-- whether pursued individually or as a couple.

Therapy is a unique type of service in that it requires a serious commitment and an active effort on your part. 

Our goal is to be a trusted guide in facilitating the change process. Finding the right therapist can be overwhelming, so we help you determine if we are a good match for your needs from the start. 

A note about time commitment:

We offer a range of services including ongoing weekly therapy and accelerated programs to target particular areas in need of growth or attention--both for individuals and for couples.

We want to help you achieve lasting results--not temporary ones, so we focus both on practical skill-building as well as on deep interpersonal shifts and relationship dynamics.

For couples therapy in particular...since we are coordinating schedules with more than two individuals (most commonly you, your partner, and the therapist), we require either a 6 week or 12 week (consecutive) minimal investment in order to meet the best conditions to maximize results. We understand that missing one or two sessions may be unavoidable, and so we allow you to reschedule two of them. 

Fee for service:

We do not offer our services in-network with insurance companies. In other words, we are not contracted with insurance companies. This means that essentially we (client and therapist) set the terms of our work together and we determine when services should be terminated without input from the insurance companies. There is also increased privacy with this approach in that a diagnosis is not submitted to insurance companies.

While we are aware of and sensitive toward financial constraints, we are not able to provide a large number of sliding scale options in this practice. These are commonly found at large outpatient centers or clinics that serve a large volume of clients. We are a small, boutique practice specializing in a tailored approach to emotional health, optimal relationship health, and general mental wellbeing. Our focus is on providing high quality in-person psychotherapy services. 

We are able to offer a limited number of sliding scale spots to those with financial constraints and you should feel free to ask about this in your initial call. 

Are services confidential?

A client’s confidentiality is of primary importance to us.

In general, the law protects the confidentiality of all client/ therapist communications. However, there are a few exceptions when confidentiality must be broken:

  • Suspected child abuse or dependent adult or elder abuse. The therapist is required to report this to the appropriate authorities immediately.
  • If a client is threatening serious bodily harm to another person. The therapist is required to notify the police.
  • If a client intends to harm himself or herself. The therapist will make every effort to work with the individual to ensure their safety. However, if an individual does not cooperate, additional measures may need to be taken.

How do I get started?

To get started, please contact us at 917.708.7088 or send us a message

We speak briefly to all prospective clients prior to scheduling the initial consultation appointment.

The initial consultation appointment is 75 minutes. This meeting provides us with an opportunity to discuss your interest in coming to therapy at this time, and to take some time to evaluate your specific needs.

We provide a tailored approach to your relationship health and wellness. As part of the personal nature of the work between client and therapist, it is important to make sure the professional relationship is a good fit for both parties. If we decide to proceed, we will typically meet on a weekly basis for 50-minutes per session for individuals or 60 minutes for couples. However, we also provide short-term intensive programs as well. The frequency and length of the sessions will be tailored to meet the needs of the client and the treatment.