"We can learn something new anytime we believe we can.” -Virginia Satir
When people hear the word trauma, they often think of war veterans or a terrible incident that resulted in a formal diagnosis of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, but it’s important to remember that trauma can also result from a range of other experiences including emotional mistreatment and neglect, being in an accident, experiences of oppression, chronic family conflict as a child, sexual or physical assault/ abuse, or witnessing violence or abuse of someone you care about and from many other situations that commonly occur throughout life.
Psychological trauma can cause upsetting emotions, intrusive memories, and worry that doesn't seem to subside. It can also leave you feeling numb, disconnected, and distrustful of others. When we are confronted with an overwhelmingly difficult experience, it can take a while to get over the pain and feel a sense of safety and peace.
In our adult lives, we may turn to a number of problematic coping styles that help us to “feel better” in the present. Having difficulty setting boundaries with others or self-medicating with problematic relationships to substances, food, sex, or putting ourselves and the relationships we care about at risk are some of the ways that trauma avoidance and attempts at coping may manifest as adults.
The process of therapy for trauma often resembles the process of healing a broken bone—while it takes time to heal and close— with the right attention and care, the place of the fracture will become strong again.